Singleness. That word is frightening to a lot of the single population in the Christian community. The fear of being alone, the fear of missing out on sexual relations, and the often reality of not being seen or heard in the Christian community. Singleness in the Christian space has become one of the least talked about subjects, yet it’s one of the most controversial subjects in the kingdom.
When I would read the words of Apostle Paul who said, “I wish that all were as I myself am [single],” immediately fear would rise in me; “Is God talking about me?” “Does God want me to be like Paul? ” “Am I going to be alone for the rest of my life?”
I would see all of my peers who are married having a good time in their marriage, I would see couples all over social media having fun and worshiping each other's presence.
I wanted that… Badly.
I noticed that I started to envy those that I saw married, I would think that since they’re married, they’re living a better life than I am. And before I knew it, there was an Idol in my life, and its name was “Marriage”.
Calling all single Christians! Pay attention: Life Is Not About Marriage.
Life isn’t about marriage and sex, even though that’s often the picture that's painted in the Christian space and the world.
We were all created by God for God. We were created to please Him, we were created to worship Him, and we were created to love Him. And out of His goodness, He gave us the wonderful gift of marriage.
We have to look at our time of singleness, however long that may be, as a beautiful gift from God as well.
The Apostle Paul, in that same passage, reminds us of the beauty in singleness. He says that it's better for us to live single (if we can) because then our devotion is strictly to God, and not to pleasing a wife, and worldly things.
There is as much beauty in singleness as there is in marriage. But the only way to accept and embrace the beauty of singleness is to lay to rest the fear of singleness.
*To watch the full sermon on Myths and Misunderstandings: All Christians Should be Married click here: M&M: Marriage
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